How To Get A Soul Reading.

I'm writing this blog entry due to the high demand that for years I had for free soul readings. Readings are known by different denominations: psychic readings, spiritual readings or tarot readings to name a few. In my previous blog post I explained why I choose to call mine soul readings. It also gives account of the process and what to expect from it. If interested in one, it's a good idea to read it here.  

My inbox, as well as my reading´s page are flooded with requests for free readings, therefore I decided to write a standard response that helps everyone to understand the process, the availability, as well as the limitations.

In order to make it easier, as well as clearer to everyone who might be interested, every week I offer free readings on Soul Readings group with simple instructions to follow. First, to post a photo with eyes looking at the lenses. As people often post photos with eyes looking away from the lenses I'd like to clarify this point. Imagine that your eyes are looking into someone else's eyes. This is what I look at and where the connection is made. Looking away from the camera does reduce the chances to be chosen. In order to make this connection it´s not even necessary to have a photo, just to feel the energy. It wouldn´t be the first time that I do a reading without a photo. It makes it easier, that´s all. 

It's best not to post photos with filters or glasses. What someone looks like doesn't make any difference when selecting someone. Also, post photos in which you are alone. Mixed energies don't help to get selected.

Be open to whatever comes. I do not answer specific questions, although this is something I might consider in some cases, especially in paid readings. 

Giving free readings is a way of giving back to the world, not something that I need or have to do. No one has to do anything for anyone unless they wish to. It's an enjoyable experience, even  though at times it can take a lot of energy. I do know what difference it makes in people's lives, from the moment that the reading is received, the shift of energy that's experienced and the positive effects and insights that come for months after the reading. 

Sometimes I feel called to do free readings, other periods I don't. It's all a matter of energy. This cannot truly be explained. 

There's a particular selection process. It's also simple to explain. I respond to the energy that calls me on the day I choose to do it. The call is unequivocal. I follow it and deliver. This is an important point that explains why I cannot guarantee a free reading to anyone. It's a matter of energy, not the person. Everyone has a wonderful energy deep within and a beautiful message. I can only deliver so many. 

The only way to guarantee a reading from me is to get a paid one. My time is limited, as I am involved in different projects. As I do not rely on readings for living, it's a service that could disappear anytime, but also gives me the freedom to offer them for free whenever I feel that's appropriate. I keep prices low to be available to as many people as possible, even though considering the time, energy, but especially the uniqueness of it and the incredible effect that has on people I could charge more.

Paid readings help to support this blog, and especially the other one I have been writing for years and in which useful information on varied subjects on spirituality, relationships and personal development. The additional income allows for more time to write.

Finally, a free reading coming from me or anyone else is a gift, but it's also a lottery. Anyone could be chosen. There are too many people asking for readings and not enough readers to respond to everyone. Not receiving a free reading is not to be taken personally or a reason for disappointment. It's not rejection. Once again, it's a choice made by energy. Whether you feel depressed or in bliss is circumstantial and not a deciding factor, although, it's true that a reading could give a break to someone experiencing a low mood.

Please don't try to make a reader feel guilty, insist or claim that you don't have the funds. Readers can see more than they might say. A reading is and should be a positive experience throughout, trying to buy a reading with fear won't bring good results and it's very possible that never happens even if there's intention to pay. 

The guilt trip:

Often people try to make readers feel guilty with comments such as: "I thought you had a caring soul," "a gift from God shouldn´t be used for financial gain," and other pearls along this line of thought. This approach can never work. A reading is an act of unconditional love that transcends all human limitations. Throwing fear into the equation from the beginning won´t be met with the expected results. 

Many people claim not to have money when they do indeed have it. If someone has a job, they're most likely able to afford a reading. If you can afford a reading you might as well consider paying for one. Having to write this blog entry is somehow discouraging, as I could have used this time to write on a different and more inspiring subject. 

Last year I hardly did any readings, neither paid nor free for reasons such as those stated above. This service won't be available much longer. After recent experiences, the end might be closer than ever. 

Usually readers offer free mini readings. So far I only do full readings. The average time is around two hours. This is a time that could be dedicated to other activities. This blog entry wouldn't be necessary if free readings were not offered on a regular basis. I hope this helps to clarify all answers that you may have in regards to readings. Keep posting your photos when there's an offer. You never know if your energy would be standing out next time. Everything is possible.

Since writing this blog post, the only thing that has changed is that full readings are now exclusive to paid ones, although they're still quite complete and the first two parts are covered. The only thing missing are the messages that come at the end of the reading. 

The book 'Reuniting with the Twin Flame' is now available on Amazon.

For soul readings visit this other page.

Free Soul Readings: The Joys And Sorrows.

This popular type of readings are often known as psychic readings. I call the ones I do, Soul Readings. Not to be different from others, but because when performing one, the experience feels like a dance with another soul. The communication is certainly different. Energy moves differently and points out the way and as it should, freely, the questions, the answers, the imagery, and finally the message. After a few seconds into the eyes of someone, visions appear and word by word, sentence by sentence the message is delivered. 

The process is lengthy. It can take a lot of energy depending on the person. The last entry on this blog, -I do have another blog-, included a reading performed on Teal Swan to illustrate a point, the unseen beauty of a person; the beauty that lies within, which one can only be seen by transcending the physical. If only we took the time to see others for what they truly are, especially ourselves, we'd only see beauty.

Besides the few lengthy exceptions that took 3 to 5 hours, the process usually takes up to two hours. The communication with the person interested, the actual reading and the communication after it. Such length makes free readings an authentic dilemma. It's too long a time dedicated to one person only. On the other side of the coin, it does help people to shift an energy and much healing and insights come to them during the following weeks, even months. 

Free readings:

It could be argued that readers offer free readings for promotion. This might be true to a certain point, as no one would purchase a product that they've never seen. However, readers love what they do, as they love people and helping others. No one would do readings for financial gain alone. It's not worth it.

In my case, considering the amount of time, when I offer free readings I choose people by the energy at the time. Therefore, it's not something I can guarantee to anyone, unless I feel called to do it. Everyone has a beautiful energy within, and a wonderful message. It's a matter of timing. In a way, these readings are given, instead of chosen. Of course appointing someone would be easier, but such a simple, conscious action would disrupt the continuous process and might affect future readings. Consistency is a must. 

Readers offer free readings because they want to. They don't have to do it for anyone.

Paid readings: 

The process doesn't differ whether a reading is free or paid. I only give full readings. What changes is the exchange of energy. Reading energies can be an exhausting experience. When readers give too much, they might burn out, at which point the won't be able to help anyone. There must be a healthy balance between both. In any case, readers, healers and any other type of spiritual practitioner deserve and must be paid for their time and energy like any other professional. It is also the only way to guarantee a reading, at least from me. Other than helping someone financially, the exchange of energy helps the reader to improve their craft, as well as providing an immediate response to whatever needs people have.

I could give reasons why someone has to be paid for their time and energy, but I´d only be stating the obvious. 

Recently I was almost determined to stop doing readings completely, which is an option I reserve for anytime in the future. The cost is sometimes too costly.

Men, women and readings:

Women are much more open than men when it comes to readings. I must get one request from a man out of 100 requests. There are reasons for this, but explaining it would make this blog post too lengthy without adding any value.

The Joys:

However exhausting it can be, reading someone is a wonderful way to connect and get to know someone. It's a meeting that takes place through energy and in silence, experiencing their inner beauty only. The best part perhaps is to feel the energy of people once they've read it and experienced a shift in energy, to read their words of gratitude and perceiving the renewed energy they write with. 

One of the reasons to do readings is that I strongly believe that if we make someone feel better, they will make others feel better, hence cause the butterfly effect, which keeps spreading over and over. I've written about it before in my other blog, that you, I and everyone else have inspired so many people without us knowing. It's important that people know that they've touched hundreds, maybe thousands of heart without their knowledge, that they matter, that we're all good enough. 

The sorrows:

Those who know my readings might be aware that the messages I deliver are beautiful, positive and meaningful to the person who received it. This is not always the case. As I read energies, sometimes I see things that are never revealed to the public and I only share with the person who has been read, whether the reading is free or paid. Seeing scenes of heartbreak, violence and even sexual abuse makes this part of readings one hard to digest, never mind enjoying it. However, such images and messages also contribute to the healing of people. It doesn't always have to be pretty.

On a personal level, readings contributed heavily in the end of my last relationship. No need to add anything here. The reason to share this information if only briefly, is to illustrate that sometimes the costs of dedicating our lives to help others and make this world a better place are too high, and often not worthwhile at a personal level. 

A reading new comes free. It always has a cost.

The end of readings:

A few months ago I was close to end with readings once and for all. There will be a time, when these readings won't be available. I am a writer and in the process of finishing a book, to be followed by another one after that. There are other projects that I'm involved in, which should see light at some point this year and that will occupy all my time, and perhaps more. These are projects that still aim to assist others in the personal development, but from a different perspective and reaching a larger audience. 

While I enjoy a one to one communication, ending with this process will bring a lot of benefits on a personal level, and consequently to the lives of others. It's the next step in my growth, and one that is coming soon. 

The end of a relationship, however much it may hurt is too small a loss compared to the loss that might had occurred had I denied myself the right to be who I am. But to deny myself to continue exploring through writing in a depth I have not yet explored and to plunge once again within in a journey of self-discovery, that would equal existential suicide while my body still moves. 

Due to the large amount of requests for readings, I felt that writing a blog entry that explains the process, what to expect and what goes on behind the scenes rather than to do so individually every time there's a request I cannot respond as others would expect. 

Yes, readings will end, but until then, I'll keep doing them as I wish and I can. Thank you for your support and understanding. 

Readings, relationships, family, friends, the places we live in, jobs, are all transitory. We move on so as to evolve and gain the necessary experiences that we need to learn. Some people move on faster, before we do, but eventually we all leave something behind. Moving on is and should be a reason to celebrate, as when doing so we participate actively in our personal growth. If we continue revisiting places that no longer serve us is because we're not ready to move on yet, or at least we like to believe we're not. If I can see this in others and transmit the message, I can see where I'm going to. One day soon these reading will be a memory, a loving memory nevertheless, but a memory after all, shares with hundreds of people who through my eyes were seen for the first time in an unexpected way. It's something beautiful to leave behind.

Sometimes all it takes, it's to show others how beautiful they are, and as we do, we also see how beautiful we are.

The book 'Reuniting with the Twin Flame' is now available on Amazon.

For soul readings visit this other page.

The 'Truth' About Teal Swan

There´s a kind of truth which will always be subjective to personal beliefs systems and life experiences. Universal truth is at the other side of the coin, hidden -and not so hidden- in the dark. A truth that remains unexplored for as long as one's acts continue validating what they've grown to believe. The path towards universal truth is through love and kindness to ourselves first, then to others. Personal truths might be harder to accept, due to the human tendency to self-defeat, when realising that at a stage in life we might have taken the wrong turn, influencing our actions, reactions and responses to life's situations. 

A meeting with one´s own conscience doesn´t leave anyone indifferent.

In the path to the truth of who we really are, everyone will inevitably make mistakes. Do not give yourself a hard time when conscience appears to show erroneous patterns adopted due to the burdensome influence of an education of a society built on fear and which heavily insists in perpetuating the impression of fear. Take it as a beautiful realisation that allows to see what you´re not, and as a turning point towards meeting the new, real you. 

Hard realisations come first, maybe followed by shame or regret. Then beauty of it develops as you embrace more of who you really are.

"In order to realise who we really are, first we must experience who we´re not."

                                                                                                Claudio Naranjo

Put your mind at ease. You´re not as ´bad´as you might have been led to believe. There´s a vague veil that blinds the true image of the self. From the moment of birth, and as we grow up, everyone is dragged into a web of lies, which are naturally accepted as truths. As they come from people we love, who previously learned the erroneous ways of the world from people they loved, such lies are accepted as normal. From that moment on. we act accordingly, even if our actions and words feel uncomfortable. 

Every action, every word, every thought creates an energy and a feeling. The problem lies in the fact that such feelings have become the norm, implicitly accepting that this is the way life is. It´s not. Life is what we make of it. Do not sign up for a life of resignation just yet. There´s a lot of beauty and love to come if you pay closer attention to your heart and feelings.  

Actions born from fear are controlling, creating feelings of shame or guilt, which are validated by creating a personality that masters such type of behaviour. The farther one's behaviour moves away from the true nature of the higher self, the more one separates from truth. As every energy that we create through actions, thoughts and words are stored in the body, where they settle growing stronger and more uncomfortable. 

Like everything else, shame is a paradox. It´s not what we did, but what it was done to us. Certain types of behaviour and actions inflicted on others are so despicable, that those inflicting pain and suffering see no other option than to keep blaming everyone else for their behaviour, instead of taking a deep look at themselves. There´s a lot of arrogance, Gaslight and narcissistic tendencies in such aggressive behaviours, and it's more extended that it may seem. Anything but to accept the truth or that they might have been mistaken. Small people would do anything to keep others small. Anything!

Several paragraphs into this blog post and still no word about Teal Swan. Oh well!

My perspective on truth, and one to which I reached through personal experience and growth, can be read here: ´Seekers After Truth´, therefore I won´t be repeating myself. It's a strong belief that by discovering, understanding and accepting our personal truth, we become better persons. Not a better man or a better woman, but a better person.

From that wonderful moment of self discovery, day by day, step by step one gets closer to the extraordinary beauty of who they really are. We´re all different in so many ways, but as we get closer to the universal truth and wisdom which lies within everyone without exception, there´s not that much difference between one and an other. Within, everyone is incredibly beautiful and gifted. We just have to look deeper. 

Months ago, someone kindly requested and arranged a soul reading for Teal Swan in gratitude for everything she does for other people, which reads as follows:

"I see a child dancing to the beat of her heart, to the joyful dance of her soul … a child that knows the wonders of other dimensions … I hear the laughter of children, the expanding waves of her charming smile … a child interrupted, that somehow forgot to play  ….  I hear your voice speaking at once in sounds and silence, delivering the untold words of the soul …. You are the Messenger, so kind, so clear, so soft …. The world transforms at the conviction of your voice … confident, persistent, a powerful warrior …. The magic of the healer flows strong in you; The Wounded Healer … generous and captivating, the sensual enchantress lies in you, somewhat aloof, reserved … I see a soul breaking through misunderstanding, patiently observing the new ripples of love moving across the world … there’s in you an important message yet to be spoken, but it’s not the right time yet … it’s a message of peace and love, abstracts to be found in your inner journey … breathe! …  the Universe flows through you powerful …. You are never alone …. Beings of light stand by you, and they are legions …. You are the Goddess of Love and Light … yours, it’s the highest call, and even though it can be lonely and cold at times, your soul is calling for belief and trust, never doubt, you’re on the right path … remember, you’re never alone and you’re well protected …. There’s a broken heart yearning to be seen, to be heard, to be truly touched … you are magnetic, elusive … there’s a calm, wild woman in you waiting for the untamed dance … the courage within leads you through a path in which the heart breaks again and again … too protective at times, your heart seeks new horizons in vulnerability ….. around you, time moves in a slow tempo, expanding days and nights …. You are a seer, though sometimes you wish you wouldn’t see; only know that there’s within a strength yet to be tapped in to assist you in meeting the call of your dutiful soul … the stillness within is infinite, and so much love in your beautiful soul … You are Muse to the lost souls, to the wanderers, to the one true Poet …. It is time to breathe, to pause and rest, you’ve been strong for too long … you may lead the path, but you don’t have to do this alone, know that the Universe will heal every soul … it’s time to sing and play and dance, time to renew bows with Spirit, ask with love and new doors must open for you …. The child within is still singing and dancing to the beating of her heart, and she’s calling … the best days are yet to come …."

  

Teal´s reading was a beautiful, intense and an exhausting three hours experience. When committing to do a reading, time is irrelevant. Whether it takes the usual hour or three, it must be delivered with the best I can give. The reading is what I see after a short glance at her eyes. It doesn´t take longer than a few seconds. What follows next is a dance with another soul, a short journey of insights, visions and messages. The truth I see in her. No other ´truth' matters to me.  

                   We hear what we want to hear. 
                                              We see what we want to see.

The reason for using Teal´s figure as a vehicle to illustrate the point I´d like to make today is simple; she is a catalyst for change, and extremely good at it. No wonder the strong reactions from people or the pressure put on her to constantly explain herself. It is inevitable to receive fierce criticism once we expose ourselves to the public opinion. Perhaps the best way not to be criticised is to remain locked within four walls in the confines of what we already know, avoiding to experience life and consequently not living. We´re all bound to be misinterpreted and misunderstood. Let´s not allow the misunderstanding of others to be the bars of our personal prison. 

Why am I sharing this today?

True magic occurs when taking the time to take a closer look at people; a deeper connection with who they really are by looking into their eyes, transcending physical appearances. Such connection cannot be achieved while distracted by the physical. We are what we are. Everyone is given the body they have. Transcending this is perhaps the most difficult part, as everyone is looking for love and beauty in someone else, somewhere else; rarely within. Therefore, we stop at the first glance of beauty to make it ours, in order to fill the bottomless hole of our incompleteness, which is the effect that an unexplored life has people. It´s not only possible, but certain to see the real beauty in others. At the same time, we also see ourselves in them. 

While following the strong wave of individualism and egocentric identity so cleverly devised and promoted by media and neo-liberalism, we do continue competing in every aspect of life. To see the beauty in others, it´s to see the beauty in us. Everyone is a piece of the puzzle of the collective soul. 

There are no words to describe the experience of seeing ourselves within someone else. It´s a moment of pure magic and synergy with another soul. 

Unfortunately, we´re afraid of looking within coerced by the fear of the disturbing criticism received since childhood, expecting to find only the dark chambers so vividly described time and again by others. Inside those chambers also lie an extraordinary light and  a source of infinite love to which anyone could connect anytime. It is a matter of believing that we can. The soul is always protected. Do not be afraid to let it out and let it shine. Your true nature and authenticity is much more visible than you might think.  

Such alledged darkness is nothing but the opinion of others, the energetic debris of people's frustrations and incompleteness. 

Having an opinion is one thing. The sense of entitlement to impose it on others is something entirely different, as well as unnecessary. If it´s not loving or kind, it´s most likely not needed. It´s easy to see the negative, to blame someone else for this action or that belief, not realising that what we do to others, we do to ourselves. 

Hard to see the truth, including ourselves when we rampage through life with a negativity filter in our eyes. This is self-imposed blindness, which prevents the vision, the sound and the dance of our incomparable inner beauty; to hear the beautiful song of our souls.  

Avoiding to look within, feeling the constant longing for something we lost -the true essence of the higher self- validates and perpetuates the opinion formulated by others. Part of being kind to the self is to have the courage to revisit your own inner beauty, and generously opening it up and sharing with the world. It is OK to change and evolve. You do not need anyone´s permission or validation. However comfortable the love and acceptance of others may be, there´s a degree of compromise to please others by continuing behaving as they wish us to. As long as it doesn´t harm anyone else, do what best suits your soul and makes you happy. 

Looking at someone´s eyes will allow you to have a perception of beauty with another soul, the unique experience shared between two people. The same is true to you. Take a long, kind and loving look in the mirror and see the beauty within. If the mirror seems too intimidating, choose your best photo and seek the truth which you experienced before others told you who you are. The truth and beauty of your soul is always there, right in front of your nose.

As per Teal, one thing I know to be true, she´s taken both, the responsibility and the burden to use her experience to help others to seek their own truth. It´s not an easy task, and one that lies heavily on her shoulders. Her truth concerns her only. Whether she decides to share it with others as the public figure she is, is her choice. To believe it or not, it's your choice too. 

         Everything is true, and everything is a lie.
Take as long as you need .... 

I also see among her 'followers'  hundreds of people happy and excited to take a deep plunge within in order to explore their own dark chambers. There's a wonderful energy of love among most of them. Teal must be doing something right. 

For years I went through an incredibly powerful work of personal transformation with the assistance of Claudio Naranjo -a man I love dearly- and his wonderful team. His SAT programs are a true ode to unconditional love and universal truth. Besides children or my own personal experiences, Claudio is the closest to God I've ever come across in my life. Regardless of the outstanding service he's done to humanity, I've also heard rumors and comments with ill intention. No one escapes the sharp, bitter tongues.

Personally I like to keep my opinions to myself. When I feel that I have something to say, I write it, publish it, so those drawn to the information I share may read it or not. So far, the feedback and comments I've received have been wonderful. 'Haters', yes, I do have them to. When they approach I respond with the deep wisdom of silence. No one escapes. 

Playing detective, digging in the dirt to smear someone's truth is easy, especially hiding behind the anonymity of social media, but that's also OK. We all advance and grow at  a different pace. However, how we treat others define who we are.

I live with a deep knowing that love is all there is. This is my truth. 

Why others do anything but love is not a mystery to me. What everyone wants from us is love. They just don't know how to ask for it. 

When and if you decided to explore those intricate and wonderful dark chambers within, just make sure that you have fun. 

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The book 'Reuniting with the Twin Flame' is now available on Amazon.

For soul readings visit this other page.

The Problem With Running Away From Relationships: Shadow Work.

Whether you're considering ending the relationship you're now in, have recently ended one or about to begin a new romantic adventure, this blog entry might bring some light to your current situation and maybe inspiration to take a deep breath, pause and connect with the inner wisdom that might be required before taking a rush decision. Breaking up might not be the best decision you'll ever make. In fact, it won't.

Most relationships, if not all, eventually hit a wall. Emotions run high, the mind is clouded with thought, and sharing space and time with a romantic partner can be a more stressful than enjoyable or fulfilling. The honey moon period is over. Personal differences create arguments that come back full of regrets; arguments that once emotions decrease prove to be insubstantial, if not futile. Regret might inevitably follow, and two people who love each other dearly could live with the feeling that they´re in the presence of a complete stranger. Their darker sides have turn up to greet each other. Can't live with them, can't live without them.

When we look at our romantic partner as a stranger, an excellent opportunity is presented to pause and reflect. If instead of focusing all the attention on a partner, the awareness is brought to ourselves, it's likely that one perceives that there's a disconnection with the self. One might not recongnise themselves anymore. There's an uncomfortable sense of loss. The melancholy of home. At this stage, it´s easier to blame the person that with all probability is still loved. This is OK. Everyone panics every now and then before the possibility of the loss of love. 

These days, many relationships do not enjoy the time, nor meet the opportunities to consolidate. As soon as an uncomfortable situation arises, one, if not both mount on a tantrum - see inner child- and throw love out of the window. The only purpose is to hurt and/or to control the other. I´m hurt, so I hurt you serves as an excuse, as false validation.

Humanity seems to have lost the ability to pause and the value of patience when facing an uncomfortable situation. "All you need is love" has been replaced with all-I-need-is-comfort-here-and-now. Relationships work as an indicator of where everyone is internally; mentally and emotionally, serving to throw us out of our comfort zone. The entire world seems comfortable being uncomfortable. Once we reach such energetic wall, the most plausible solution to hold on to the right to be right is to end the relationship. Often, relationships break when two people are still in love. Comfort seems more inviting than love. 

How one can drop from one day to the other the person they love is beyond me!

This takes us to the figure of the runner. Running away from relationships is running away from yourself. Yet, we all know that there's no place to escape. Any relationship will bring periods of discomfort in which one must deal with their own emotions. Emotions that have been there untapped for a long time. 

One might try to convince themselves that a relationship ends, lesson learned and I'll do better next time. No, you won't! The same issues and patterns will come back with any relationship, only that the next time intensity will increase, and emotions will return with a vengeance. The notion that with a new partner the relationship will be easier or better is an illusion that gives the ego momentary validation. It won't be easier. In fact it will be the opposite. Avoiding to explore feelings and emotions might work while being single and unattached, but when a feeling remains unexplored, it will return to show that someone is at the same or worse place to where they were before. 

Avoidance is nothing but fear. Fear to love and be loved.

Relationships are much more than love. However, if they don't work, it's  mostly due to the inability of one or two people to bet everything on love. When love is unconditional, one can face, deal with and solve any issues. Love does not see problems, but opportunities to grow. This is not the case. Before beginning the relationship, people have a pre-conceived idea of what it should be like. Reality proves different. 

People put obstacles with their endless conditions. These conditions are nothing but fear of love. Any relationship will work if people had the patience to deal with their differences and adapt to the other person within reason. There must be balance. One cannot adapt to every demand when their partner shows not flexibility. 

Running away from relationships leaves us unevolved.

Before beginning a relationship one should consider what is their commitment to do shadow work and discuss it with the other person. If one is not prepared to go through it, the likelihood that it ends is high. In this case, the end result might be the easy way out and to move on. 

Shadow work is easy in practice, but it could be an excruciating experience to go through. It requires patience, commitment and above all, love or the intention to reach unconditional love within the couple. Relationships are perfect platforms for self-growth, as well as allowing two people to grow together. However painful or intense it proves to be, shadow work in a relationship makes people stronger individually and in partnership. 

According to Jung, "shadow work reveals the dark side of the personality which is unknown to the conscious ego." These aspects of the personality reveal themselves in a relationship, provoking a series of feelings and emotions never explored before. Whether we have knowledge of shadow work or not, it is presented every day in all relationships, and as the 'dark side' is revealed, an uncomfortable period begins. Now we´re facing a mirror seeing a reflection we do not really want to see. The heart closes, the ego feels reinforced and the mind begins to wander in better shores with an ideal partner. 

We need to learn to love the darker side of the other person. If we see it in them, it is in us also.

This ´ideal partner´ is a product of the same pre-conception of what love and relationships should be that one enters the relationship with, a projection of the self onto another person. A vicious circle in search of the ideal. Every partner is ideal, every person is romantically compatible with another provided there's love as a foundation. All it takes is love, and commitment to grow together. 

Instead of focusing on the ideal lover, we might want to consider to dedicate time, energy and work on becoming the ideal lover. 

Shadow work is demanding. Couples might need assistance from a third party at the beginning, although once the process is initiated and both partners are aware of how it works, it is something a couple can deal with on their own. It does take time. 

Running away from the relationship might give the impression that things are better for a while, as one does not need to deal with their dark side, lacking the mirror in a partner to reflect the truth about the self. It is also a pointless exercise and one that will bring excruciating pain in the future. Remember this: you´re doing it to yourself. Running away from a relationship is to lie to ourselves, to leave things undone, feelings unexpressed and emotions untouched. 

It is a constant complaint from people who have been in different relationships that they keep attracting the same kind of partner. There's a point in life in which one has to consider to look within and take responsibility for their own feelings and emotions. When all previous romantic partners seem to behave in exactly the same way towards us, it's time to pause and take a good look at ourselves.

It´s not that we attract the same partners. Different partners have to face and deal with the same issues. The impression will be that everyone is the same and behave in the same way. Here, we reached the poor-me-victim stage. 

Shadow work, however unattractive it might sound, brings people together, making them stronger. It requires to allow yourself to be vulnerable, so as to detach from the more obscure parts of the self in order to reveal the most beautiful part of you. 

Running away from a relationship hurts you and hurts the other person. If you read this, now you know. There's enough hurt and heartbreak in the world already. If you feel that you're not loving this person anymore, take a look at yourself and consider that you might not be allowing yourself to feel, and consequently you might have lost the ability to love another. 

The wall is always there and it will grow stronger with every relationship. Shadow work allows the individual to discover different aspects of their personality, so as to leave it behind and become more true to oneself. Before we become who we really are, first we have to experience what we're not. 

Commitment to a relationship and to shadow work also within the relationship is an act of love and self-love. It is a path to the unknown beautiful self. It's also a personal choice. We run away until we find out there's nowhere to go to. 

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